Working on creating a perfect self is not the goal; working on accepting your self no matter what state of perfection you are in is more to the point.
Imagine a flower trying to be more perfect, or an antelope working to perfect its antelope-ness. These are laughable. Yet, you do that as you struggle with your faults which by nature of being part of humanity are a part of you.
Humans must breathe, eat, drink water, smell, think, communicate, cry, laugh, move, hope, love and fear. It is their nature. Yet why then are you judged when doing these things? Would you judge the antelope for bounding across the plains or for having horns.?
Think not about your faults. Feel instead your heart and allow it to lead you through life. Let your heart lead through the tears, the anger, the talking, the friendships, the conflict. If you allow your heart to lead, all will come aright. When you follow your heart, you accept your self, you become you.
And even though hardship and conflict will not stop, there is a peace in the heart that allows acceptance and joy to fly free. The heart is the key to any problem or challenge. Study the heart, free the heart, allow the heart to feel its way through and you will be on solid ground.
Find your way by opening your heart and letting Spirit out. It is the way of the universe. It is the way of the antelope. It is the way. You are only a step away from seeing with your heart. Forget your faults.
They will be overshadowed by the real love of Spirit. Concentrate on loving. Concentrate on being filled with love and letting it out into the universe. Concentrate on feeling the love that surrounds you all the time.
Feel the love of the universe and you will dance to the music of the spheres. You are not alone. Many dance with you. Hold out your hands to them and love.