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What is life? Why am I here? What is my purpose? These are questions that Agnes loves to hear. Agnes is a group of Star Beings whose chosen purpose is to help humans find the path of love. Below are some questions they have answered from curious people just like you. Please feel free to ask a question of your own by filling out the form below. One question will be chosen each week and will be posted here and on Facebook and Instagram. No names will be used in the posts.
Dear Agnes, Can you help me deal with my mother?
Dear Agnes,
Can you help me deal with my mother? Sometimes she treats me as the fool like she does with many others. Her sarcasm and ridicule are difficult to live with. What can I do so that I’m not so angry at her?
Signed, I used to love her
Dear Love her,
She is your mother. She has been in charge of you for many years, all your life. She lives in grief, many times in her life there have been troubles. She is a woman of great strength and courage, but she is full of sorrow. Very full. Sometimes she cannot sleep, and she cries for her lost loves. These seem large to her. Her gratitude is not always on her mind.
You are able to understand her sorrow and yet you take offence to it. Do not carry her sorrow with you. Many times in your life you have taken on her sorrow as yours. Do not. This is a time for great strength and humbleness. Let your gratitude carry you through this. Be grateful for your mother despite her faults. Do not engage in her defensiveness. She sees you; she loves you. She is there for you. Be grateful for that.
Dear Agnes, What is my purpose in life?
Dear Agnes,
What is my purpose is life. I feel so lost. I don’t know what to do.
Signed, Lost in Life
Dear Life,
You are to give and receive love in the best way possible. To hold other hearts in your hand and nurture them and allow them room to grow. You are to be a part of the growth, to send others on their journey, to create a way for others to make their journey, to begin their quest. You are in the precious place of giving, of beginning. You are to help others around you, those you come in contact with, those you meet and those who only know of you.
To live a life based on love is the most purposeful, honest, true and beautiful thing you can do with your life. A life is a gift, a special present from the Creator, and to use it in hatred or pain, in violence or shame is to dishonor the gift. Each life is filled with some pain, only to rise above it, some violence, only to learn that love is the greater power, some hatred, only to see the true beauty of living together in love.
When you choose to live with love as your purpose, your ally, your strength, giving becomes easy, feeling is the road to truth, and joy and happiness become your constant companions.
It is time for all to experience the true love and joy given to us from the Creator. Open your heart from the inside. Let the door swing wide and feel the freedom of love, the letting go, the serious joy of life that is your legacy, your true inheritance. Feel at once how it is to live in love and accept this as yours, holding to it, experiencing the joy and pureness of the moment. You are a child of love. You will know it when it arrives.
Dear Agnes, I am so sad. My dearest friend passed away last month.
Dear Agnes.
I am so sad, my dearest friend passed away last month, and I don’t know how to deal with the sorrow and pain I am feeling. I can’t seem to concentrate on anything and feel so much grief. Can you help me?
Signed, Feeling the pain
Dear Feeling,
The truth about death is something you already know. It is not the end, even though it is an end to the body, the spirit flies on to the next space, the next challenge, the next wind.
The body has a certain memory, a certain cellular function that ceases when the spirit is no longer there to fuel it. But the spirit carries the true memory, the memory of love and connection to other spirits. This is with the spirit always and forever.
When the body dies, people are sad because they miss the person’s spirit. They are afraid they will never see this person again. But what they forget is that death is only a temporary separation. All things die, and when you die, you will be reunited with those spirits you are connected to.
Life is a temporary separation from the many, many spirits you are connected to that are not alive. But life also is a temporary connection to the spirits you are here with. The spiritual truth is that you are connected to everyone and everything. When you live, this concept is difficult, perhaps glimpses of this truth can be seen, but separation is the way of seeing most of the time.
It’s important to learn not to worry, to keep your worries from overpowering the love you have inside and turning it into fear. The love you hold inside can turn into fear if you hold it too tightly, thinking it belongs to you when, in truth, love belongs to no one. It moves through us, and we experience it, it moves us, we feel our hearts melt and expand, but it does not belong to us. It belongs through us.
This is true of the people in our lives as well. None of them belong to us. They may feel like a part of us and hold a piece of our heart, but they are not ours. And when a person we love is called to leave us, through death or in life, it is important to send them with love, to know your love will accompany them whether they leave in anger or in love.
Your love must be allowed to follow, to leave your heart and go with them or that same love will harden and dry up if you try to keep it. It was not meant to sit in your heart waiting. That is how love may turn into fear. Check your heart now and see if there is any love you may be holding back, holding on to. Look deep and see if you have any long-held sorrow or pain. This, too, is love that is kept.
Let your heart find its old worn-out love, the old, hardened cakes of love dried out and laying forgotten in the corners of your heart. They may have turned to pain or sorrow or fear, but it is not too late to reclaim them and allow the great love of Spirit to wash over them and turn them into the healing water of forgiveness, understanding and letting go.
Dear Agnes, There is a war going on in Palestine and Israel.
Dear Agnes,
There is a war going on in Palestine and Israel. The Palestinians are unable to fight back and there is widespread bombings. What about the Palestinians? How can we help them?
Signed Helpless in America
Dear America,
There is no winner in a war. The sadness of a war is that many are killed, many are hurt both physically and mentally, buildings are destroyed and families are broken. There is no winner in a war. You asked about the Palestinians. This is the city where Jesus was born. This is where the beginnings of the story of Christianity and Judaism took place. Why is there war in such a holy place?
The answers are obvious, but they are true. Humankind has turned away from the idea of love that Jesus spoke about. Humans have focused on the power and greed that corrupt many and cause wars, just and unjust. War is about power. Love is about connection and family. War is about having material things, love is about creating more love. War is about forcing others to do your will. Love is about understanding what others want and need.
When humans turn away from love, war is what they find. There is no other option but to love. When you are full of love, there is enough love and understanding for everyone. When you are full of anger, there is only conflict for everyone. You are the key to love. You are the reason for love. To love fully, there can be no conflict in your own heart. You must find the conflict in your heart and let it go. This is your war, your truth. When your conflict is resolved and is no more, then you may help others with their conflicts. When all of humankind has let go of the conflict in their own hearts, there will be no more war.
Dear Agnes, How do you keep loving through a loss?
Dear Agnes,
How do you keep loving through a loss? I have lost all my belongings and my place to live. There is plenty to be grateful for, my family is safe, but I feel broken and charred like my house. My belongings reminded me of my life story, they were meaningful and now I have nothing. In one way, I feel free but also so sad.
Feeling charred and broken
Dear Feeling,
There is always sadness around loss. It doesn’t matter if you lost a game, a belonging, or a living being. There is always sadness. The thing to remember is that love is eternal and can never be lost. Whatever love you lavished on your material goods or your living friends, that love is still with you.
Love is something you can give away and yet still keep. This love is your most precious gift to others and to yourself. When you create love in your heart, it lasts forever. So, when you are sad and feeling broken, remember this love and it will revive you. Remember the love you gave to the people and things around you. It is still there in your heart.
Your heart remembers the love which is why you are sorrowful. You hold on to the love in your heart when you lose people or things. Let that love out. Let your self love new things. Let your self find new meaning. You are eternal and things are not. When you realize that you will be more flexible in your response to losing material things. Grieve for what you have lost but continue to love. This is the way to a loving heart.
Dear Agnes, How do I forgive myself?
Dear Agnes, How do I forgive myself?
Signed, Feeling Down
Dear Feeling Down,
This is a great question. The ability to understand what you have done and know the consequences to the other person (or to yourself) is the sign of an intelligent being. If you, for instance, hurt someone and did not feel anything wrong in that, there is something broken. This is what happens to people who have been abused and abandoned, they lose the ability to understand what they have done.
Animals are set apart from humans because they do not empathize or understand they may have done something wrong according to our standards and values. But humans are not guided by animal instincts, for the most part, and are able to empathize and understand from a young age. This can be lost if the child is not cherished. This is a loss to humanity as well as to the family and individual.
Forgiveness is something you can do on your own, without help, without others. It is a very personal and deep discussion with your self. When forgiving your self, it is important to see the good in your self as well as the bad. See your self with the eyes of Creator and know that you are a very important and imperfect human. You are bound to make mistakes because of this. Human emotions are very sensitive and powerful and it takes time and effort to learn how to understand and work with them.
If you have not put in the time and effort to understand your emotions, then you will have episodes where you will need forgiveness. This is another learning point for you. Forgiving your self involves seeing the episode truthfully with your part highlighted. Then you must understand the deep reasons for what you did. Does it reach back to how a past loved one treated you, whether it be parents, sibling or friend. Does it have anything to do with how you look at your self and others.
Have you accepted your self and your limits? Have you given your self the love that it yearns for? Have you partnered with Creator in love? Have you been forgiving of others? These questions must be answered before you can forgive your self. It is a wonderful thing to do, and the main thing that must be done in order to love your self. The sooner you start looking at it, the sooner you will be free. Creator can help with this. Simply ask for help and there will be love in your heart waiting for you.
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